Self-Bondage on Cam!
When thinking of bondage, what comes to mind? Perhaps it’s the idea of tight ropes causing traction against soft skin; maybe it’s the visual of a Kinky model bound intricately and strung up through hooks dangling from the ceiling. Whatever idea one may have about the act of bondage or being bound, that one idea represents a small point somewhere on the very large spectrum of bondage play. Traditionally, bondage play is something done with a partner; one person gets tied while another performs the tying. Self-bondage or performing tying and binding on oneself is seemingly less discussed, though nevertheless on the rise in recent years because it’s gained popularity in the Fetish web-camming community. Self-bondage play appeals to bondage enthusiasts who might not know or have access to bondage play participants in their local area, or simply to bondage play enthusiasts who prefer a virtual play space. In this article we will briefly the different types of tying material to use, the different types of techniques one can try when self-tying, and the benefits of self-bondage on cam (why it feels good for those doing the self-tying and the allure it holds for bondage enthusiasts on cam).
*Safety Note*
It’s of the upmost importance to consider aspects of safety when considering trying self-bondage. Safety becomes even more important in instances of self-bondage because there isn’t a neutral party there to safeguard the tying process and to ensure the comfort of the person being tied. With that being said, if you indulge in self-bondage, never get tied up in a situation you cannot get out of; always have safety sheers handy within reach, never bind yourself too tight, and do not go overboard with the self-bondage. Never for any reason tie anything around your neck or throat. Always leave at least a fingers-worth of space between the tie material and one’s body; never tie too tight. The first step to a successful self-tie is understanding the tie, and knowing how to quickly get out of the tie before even trying it out. Sometimes the best way to learn what to do is to learn what NOT to do. Do not try self-bondage techniques you are not comfortable with. Once one understands how to safely approach self-bondage, it’s time to decide on the type of material to use!
Self-Tying: Common Household Items to Try!
There are plenty of different materials to use for self-bondage, mainly depending on preference and what’s available in close proximity. For novices who are exploring the world of self-tying who may not have access to actual bondage rope, there are plethora of common house hold items that can be employed for self-tying purposes. Channel your inner Macgyver and try out some of these everyday items for beginner’s fun!
- Stockings/Pantyhose/Tights – Hosiery: Hosiery is a great self-tying resource because its elastic and can be manipulated in many different ways. Hosiery can be used to perform a multitude of simple self-tying play: gagging, binding the hands, binding the feet, binding the hands and the feet together, binding the legs, binding the breasts, binding male genitals for some CBT fun, etc. Hosiery is also great because it’s not the most durable material, making it great for safe play since it’s easy to rip apart or get out of.
- Scarves & other articles of clothing – scarfs are also great because they are often soft yet more durable that hosiery. Some scarves are elastic while others are not, the less elastic scarves providing for a more secured tie. Unlike hosiery, scarves are not usually easy to rip apart and get out of, so in that sense they are a step above hosiery in regards to the level of self-tying intensity. One can also use various articles of clothing like pants or cut up t shirts.
- Tape – Tape is a great resource, though it’s definitely more intense than hosiery, scarves or any type of clothing. Tape provides a very tight hold on the person being tied that can sometimes be uncomfortable, though for some that aspect of being uncomfortable enhances the fantasy and arousal of play. Tape is great for self-binding the feet, legs, torso or mouth, but it’s never recommended to use tape to self-bind the hands. If using tape to gag oneself, do so with caution.
- Bathrobe tie – Use the tie around your bathrobe as a soft blindfold or a solid leg-binder!
- Dog Leash – Utilize Fido’s leash as a go-to gag or ankle binder!
- Cling/Plastic Wrap – If you’re looking to replicate the feeling of being bound with latex or vinyl, try wrapping your lower body or torso in plastic or cling wrap! DO NOT use cling or plastic wrap to gag or wrap the face.
Different Types of Self Bondage Techniques/Ideas to try!
If one is not familiar with self-bondage or self-tying, one might assume that it must always involve binding the hands, feet or limbs together. On the contrary, self-bondage includes a wide range of activities including gagging, restraining and blindfolding that may have nothing to do with tying one item to another.
- Gagging & Blindfolding – simply using any of the items listed above to gag oneself or blindfold oneself (excluding cling/plastic wrap).
- Restraints – including spreader bars, different types of bondage cuffs, bed restraints, collars & leash, etc. Restraints are also conventionally used with another play participant. Though when taking the right precautions, restraints can be really fun and also add an extra kinky visual element when playing solo on cam. UberKinky provides a great guide on restraints; learn more about all the different types of restraints here!
- Breast bondage – including tying or binding the breasts, either for visual purposes or to put pressure on the breasts for pleasure. Tying can be either symmetrical or asymmetrical. To learn more about specific types of breast bondage, check out these guides!
- Rope Bondage – Rope bondage is probably the most well-known type of bondage and there are quite a few different ways to go about using rope for self-bondage. Things to consider are the type of knots one wants to use, the type of rope bondage being done, and the type of rope being used for bondage. Self-bondage using rope is usually on the more advanced end of the tying spectrum, but it can be done simply and efficiently with the right knots and type of rope. To learn more about rope bondage and the kind of knots to use, check out this informative guide!
Benefits of Self Bondage on Cam:
For the Cam Model:
Learning how to self-bind or self-tie will add a new unique visual element to any fetish model’s repertoire. Listing self-bondage skills on a cam model profile will make it easier for niche bondage fetish users to locate models they are interested in. Self-bondage and bondage in general on cam is not the most common occurrence, so by performing self-bondage on cam and appealing to those bondage enthusiasts who seldom find the kind of kinky play they are looking for, a fetish cam model can really separate themselves from the rest of the competition.
Self-bondage in on-cam roleplay can really enhance the feeling of helplessness or submission. For models who enjoy the feeling of submission during roleplay with a Dominant user, the feeling of self-tying and doing so via obeying the orders of a Dominant can really bring the feeling of submission full frontal.
Last but not least, it’s always fun to learn something new and unique!
For the User:
The same can be said when the tables are turned and the cam model assumes the role of the Dominant while the user assumes the role of the submissive; instructing a submissive to self-tie their genitals (CBT), gag or blindfold themselves etc. can really help the submissive user transition into subspace and embrace a submissive mind-state.
In general, self-bondage on cam appeals to bondage enthusiasts who may not have another person to play with or for enthusiasts who are simply intimidated by the idea of seeking bondage play within a Fetish Dungeon or kinky club parties. Finding a bondage model on cam is often much easier and less time consuming that locating the right person to play with in real life. For some, a virtual fetish play environment is simply more captivating than in-person interaction.